Debbie Chavez has a wonderful podcast for women! She was kind enough to have me on. Here is the link if you want to listen! Thanks!...read more
Monday night I curled up on my couch with a warm fuzzy blanket to watch mindless television. A welcome relief from a long day of work and chauffeuring my three teenage boys around. The Bachelor: The Women Tell All was on. Shining from my flatscreen was a room full of...read more
March 1st, this baby arrives! Have you ordered your copy? Pre-order yours now! Amazon or Barnes and Noble I can't wait for you all to read these stories of these brave and beautiful women! You are in these pages too. Maybe you don't feel like you are, but I know you...read more
Dividing lines. Walls. Fences and lines drawn in the sand. Belief systems that cancel Thanksgiving plans and delete Facebook friends. Heated conversations, tweets, newscasters and even preachers fighting it out. Read more of this article at the Huffington Post ...read more
It is easy to walk around this word being washed over by the media stories reporting horror. To carry around a dark heavy coat of fear and sadness because, “where is the good in this world?”
I find myself being sucked into the drudgery of life and adulting and I sometimes can’t see anything but the pain and sadness.
And it is hard to feel free and unchained by it all.
And then I see it, the bravery, the courage in another and I know there is so much more here than only pain.read more
I have always wanted to be tan. Not just tan, but a perfect bronze color with a splash of pink on my cheeks.
Fresh and sun kissed.
Skin tinted just the right color that radiated health and beauty.
Because that is what being tan does right? Makes you look healthy and beautiful.read more
In September I received a book contract for my second book. When I answered the call from the calm voice on the other end telling me the publishing house loved and wanted to publish this book, I sat in my car in the parking lot of Marshall’s wondering if they had made a mistake.
Had they called the wrong person?
Were they really offering me a book contract for a book that had not even been written? Did they not know who they were calling? Didn’t they see in my proposal that my first book was never listed on the New York Times Bestseller list, or that it never hit any sort of top charts.
I wanted to ask them, are you sure you really want to do this? Are you sure you want to invest in my story?read more
What I have learned through recovery from an eating disorder…
I have learned, that it was never about food.
It was never about my body. The (lack of) food was the drug to numb the overwhelming emotions, to punish a little girl that never felt good enough. To keep her in line, to not let her live within the wiggly lines of real life.read more
It doesn’t look like it, but I have been writing. Lots and lots of writing. And change. Lots and lots of change.read more
“Who is cheering for me?” she said.
She was up all night asking this question with tears falling down her face. Her husband sleeping next to her while he rested for the marathon he would run the next day. Her family ready to cheer him on.
And she held this question in her hands wondering.
“Who is cheering for me?”read more
I recently finished reading a powerful and helpful book called The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do in Life and Business by Charles Duhigg.
It is a GREAT book. He describes the habit loop like this:
Habits are powerful: They create neurological cravings. Most of the time these cravings emerge so gradually that we’re not really aware they exist, we’re often blind to their influence. But as we associate cues with certain rewards, a subconscious craving emerges in our brains that starts the habit loop spinning.” Says Duhigg
We have all been there with habits right? Why we continue some bad habits and are able to break others has a lot to do with our brain. I am not denying that.
A recent study came out identifying a part in an anorexic’s brain lighting up in the habit region.read more
The word returning was impressed into my mind after attending a fascinating workshop this weekend.
What does it mean to return?read more
There is a silent code within many families, and it is not in relation to one’s status or wealth.
I am referring to the pathology of silence that encompasses a family when mental illness or addiction is present.
Don’t tell. Don’t share. It makes us (the family) look bad.
Patrick Kennedy bravely broke through the conspiracy of silence by sharing his own struggle with mental illness and addiction in a profound and heartwarming segment on 60 minutes. Watch Here.read more
Boxes are so tidy. You can see all sides. They are one-dimensional and really there isn’t much more to say about them. It is what it is.
The same is true when we do that with people, this putting people in boxes.read more
In the middle of a frigid Minnesota winter it is not uncommon to see kids in shorts or at a bus stop without a coat, because they think it is somehow uncool to wear a coat.
My teenagers are notorious for this. I stand in the foyer and holler with my hands waving in the air, “Can’t you see it is WINTER outside? It is freezing! Put on your coat!” Before I know it they are out the door in only a sweatshirt and shorts, clueless and unwilling to accept the fact that it is winter and it is cold.
Have you ever been in a season of your life like this?read more